I’m so glad that the first two weeks of school has come and gone. Now, it’s time to get focused on some new projects that I’m working on.
Over the past weeks, months and years, the media exposure to violence against children and particularly African American males has been alarmingly off the charts. There’s been so much debate and discussion about the inhumane treatment of several African American males and the violence that is perpetuated against them by citizens and authority figures in their communities that I felt the need to blog about the positive influence parents can have during times like this.
Although, there are many people who are outraged and didn’t know that in some cities, states and communities this type of violence is a regular occurrence. This type of violence has destroyed, paralyzed and virtually crippled many generations in the past and current. This level of violence, unrest, poor race relations, etc. has left communities and families feeling hopeless like there is no future for their own children or the children in their communities. But if the people living in these communities, cities and states don’t take back their families, communities, cities & states we will continue to see even worse acts of violence perpetuated against these young men (African American and Hispanic).
As a parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle, counsin, brother, sister, pastor, community leader and any other person who is involved in the villages that are suffering like this…IT STARTS WITH YOU!
Of course, there are things that will happen outside of the comfort and protection of our homes that we cannot control but we have an obligation and duty to do whatever we can to make sure our children grow up with the success tools they need to make a difference in society and take a different path than negativity that is consistently bombarding their neighborhoods. So, you ask–What can I do if I am raising children in these not so good environments?
Well, there are so many things that parents need to do in order to create an environment of success but I’m going to share 3 tips that will give you a great starting point:
1. Create a positive home environment that resonates of positivity, support, love, encouragement & empowerment. And always tell your child something positive DAILY so they know they are special to someone and they’ll feel good about themselves. So that means: No name calling, No Put downs, No blaming them for your horrible life and No comparing them to the negative traits of the other parent if you are a single parent;
2. You should expose them to the possibilities of a sucessful life outside of “their hood” in order to show them that there are positive people, places, and things for them to see, do and be in this world. They need to know that they can go to college if they want to, they can have a successful career doing something they love, they can be a business man or woman, etc. They need to know that the skies are the limit for them and they can achieve what they may see as the “impossible”.
3. Get them involved in an extracurricular activity that they enjoy. This can be sports, arts, music, cooking, volunteering, drawing, etc. It doesn’t matter what it is just as long as it fosters leadership, teamwork, goal-setting and achievement in order to boost their confidence in themselves. If there is a mentoring program or club they can get involved in that can teach them things that you as a parent are not knowledgable about then get them signed up!
MY BONUS TIP:
Don’t be afraid to do some self-improvement yourself as a parent. It’s never too late to take a class, learn a new trade, finish your degree or get your high school diploma/GED if you haven’t. Showing your child that you want more out of life speaks the world to them and it makes the “impossible” seem more “possible” when kids see their parents changing for the better and rise above their own odds!
I hope these tips have been helpful today but if you would love to talk with me in morre depth about anything concerning yourself or your family please feel free to contact me via my email or blog.
Your Family Change Agent,